March 27, 2008

Who's your Daddy?

"Who's your daddy?" is a slang expression that takes the form of a rhetorical question. Use of the phrase implies a boastful claim of physical or sexual dominance over the intended listener. Comedians suggest that the phrase is frequently spoken by men in a Freudian outburst during sexual intercourse.
The phrase itself stands out as a noteworthy lyric from the 1968 song Time of the Season by The Zombies: "What's your name? Who's your daddy? Is he rich like me?"
Widespread provocative use of the phrase began as early as the late 1980's, largely due to its frequent use in sexually suggestive skits broadcast by a popular syndicated radio shock jock known as "The Greaseman".

March 25, 2008


A great many girls had some of their earliest sexual experiences at slumber parties and other all-girl gatherings, playing games such as Truth or Dare, or some variation of these adolescent sensual socialization games. I suspect that a lot of girls first discover their sense of submissiveness (or domme-ness) through these kissing and party games that girls play late into the night.

I have read about girls who recall themselves in those games, "always wanting to be the girl/bottom" or "how embarrassed I was having all the other girls watching me" or "they made me rub between my legs until I felt like I needed to pee", many other expressions of how they felt being exposed, or involved, or placed in an embarrassing or aroused situation. I don't think these early teen or even preteen experiences necessarily lead to, or foster, either lesbian or bisexual orientations in girls, but I think there are many, many girls who get their first taste of their submissive nature during one of these slumber party games, or afternoon parties. Their first taste of sensuality comes at the hand of their friends who are equally naive, or are more brave/brazen (domme?), and they learn how it feels to do someone else's bidding, to perform in a way that pleases someone else.

Many girls have their first experiences of masturbation, or mutual masturbation or even girl on girl sexual activity "forced on them" in one of these group activities. These games go by many names:

Truth or Dare
Truth, Dare or Torture (Australian); with torture being simply for more embarrassing dares.
Lies or Play it Safe
Truth Dare, Double Dare, Promise or Repeat
Truth, Dare, Situation, Stare (India)
Tell or Torture

For the submissive girls, they were strangely attracted to these new and forbidden/taboo sensations, they felt the attraction of the entire thing, the involvement of other girls, they liked being watched, watching, they were so excited about the whole thing, often privately, because they were too embarrassed or shy to make any overt moves. They are left to wonder, how do I fulfill these feelings.

March 17, 2008

Daddy/little girl

In many discussions of the Daddy/little girl relationship, it is surprising how often some people have the idea tied to infantilization, or a perverse interest in underage girls. It is not viewed that way by those involved, but by others.

I have heard it said,
"At the extreme, the subs wear or are dressed in diapers and may use them, suck pacifiers and thumbs, play with dolls. They are bathed and tucked in. In less extreme cases, there is still an implied infantilization."
"They are sexually aroused by intimate contact with a little girl or possibly even with a daughter."
"The other motivation I imagine is that some daddy doms are relatively weak - and I don't mean that pejoratively. They have a dominant streak, but the only context in which they can safely express it is with a sub infantalized."

It has been my experience, both personally and by observation of others, that most Daddy and little girl relationships are not so different from other D/s relationships. He ties her up, he spanks her, she serves him, she gets release if he gives permission, and so on. Maybe the Daddy is older than his little girl, maybe quite a bit older. Maybe the Dom is more experienced or more mature or somehow has more authority or confidence; and the submissive defers to him. Often the overriding desires of the little girl are to be nurtured, and cared for and controlled, taught, and protected, perhaps different than the desires of other submissives and slaves who crave use and service.

But perhaps when he is Daddy it's more than just deference. It's more like he has a kind of infallibility. His authority is unchallengeable. It's not the same as the sheer power with which the slave-master asserts his will. The Daddy has a special aura of authority, in the face of which she becomes small, loses her grown-up faculties of self-determination and free will. In exchange she finds total security. I think in some cases, she is revisiting a relationship with an early authority figure in her life, perhaps one that never was completed or consummated.

It is a sense of "he knows what is best" for his little girl and she, knowing he has her best interests at heart, will obey her Daddy and feel comfortable and secure in "knowing" his love for her and the fact that she can please him by doing his bidding. It all sounds pretty much the same as most any submissive with her Dominant. I am not sure what the definitive difference is, often the more it is discussed, the more it sounds the same.

March 15, 2008

State Stat Stuff, with apologies

One of my readers stopped by and left a comment, innocent enough, but it struck me right up side the head. I realized that in my last post, I had gotten so enamoured with the exotic nature of my visitors home locations that I inadvertently had slighted, or ignored those visitors from right here in the U.S. So with my apologies, your visits and thoughts and comments are certainly no less valued or appreciated. During that same one week period I had the good fortune to be visited by more than half of the states:

Alaska, Arizona, California, District Of Columbia, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Iowa, Kansas, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nebraska, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Texas, Virginia, Washington, and Wisconsin

Thank you one and all, no matter where you are.

March 6, 2008

Stat Stuff

I have read the blogs of others and the interesting discoveries they have made while slogging through their stats. Today I was hit with a smiliar "revelation". In just the first 5 days of this month I have had the honor of being visited by people from the following cities/countries. Even for someone who lives in a social hub city like Las Vegas, this is moderately amazing:

Australia, Bundaberg, Queensland
Australia, Melbourne, Victoria
Australia, Perth, Western Australia
Belgium, Mortsel, Antwerpen
Belgium, Brussels, Brussels Hoofdstedelijk Gewest
Canada, Calgary, Alberta
Canada, Surrey, British Columbia
Canada, Barrie, Ontario
Canada, Brampton, Ontario
Canada, Montreal, Quebec
Croatia, Zagreb, Grad Zagreb
France, Paris, Ile-de-france
Germany, Berlin, Berlin
Italy, Spoleto, Umbria
Malaysia, Kuala Lumpur, Wilayah Persekutuan
Netherlands, Amsterdam, Noord-holland
Republic of Korea, Seoul, Kyonggi-do
Russian Federation, Moscow, Moskva
Spain, Santander, Cantabria
Spain, Barcelona, Catalonia
Stockholm, Stockholms Lan
United Kingdom, Bath, England
United Kingdom, Brighton, England
United Kingdom, Coventry, England
United Kingdom, London, England

Things like this serve as a reminder of how pervasive the Internet is, some little blog about the ramblings of a dirty old man (isn't that with Dom means?) is scattered all of the globe. If any of you distant travelers/visitors would offer a simple comment/hello it would be interesting to have your feedback.

I guess I better be a little more careful about the things I say, (yea, right).