tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post6887164598711470788..comments2023-04-12T04:11:40.082-07:00Comments on A View from the Top: Discovering submissivenessDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04943867226010869367noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-66814925939266191322008-09-17T00:45:00.000-07:002008-09-17T00:45:00.000-07:00Is this phenomenon of men noticing a submissive wo...Is this phenomenon of men noticing a submissive woman accurate? I definitely want to hear more, because this has happened to me all my life! It happened just the other night, leaving a restaurant. I've been patted on the rear by one chiropractor and another chiro propositioned to go away for the weekend with a girl we both knew, while his wife was out of town! When I was younger, I was so intimidated by men like that, I would never go back. Now I'm complimented by their "looks" toward me. But I couldn't ever figure it out, because although I'm attractive, I never was the one who got all the guys chasing after her. So somewhere on a low-grade frequency I put out the vibe of being a sub and only get the Doms attention?! Life is getting quite...curious! Sincerely, His_babydollAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-38230105248760142282008-06-08T07:24:00.000-07:002008-06-08T07:24:00.000-07:00I stumbled on D/s by accident last year on the int...I stumbled on D/s by accident last year on the internet. It gave a name to my nature which I believe I've had since birth. My first recollection of submission was at five when two boys asked me to lay down with my pants down under a blanket. I did willingly and with great anticipation. They had to go in for lunch and didn't return. I was very dissapointed and for years longed for that excitement, which I believe now was sexual (even at that aga). <BR/><BR/>I married a man who controlled me in the bedroom, albeit with little kink. I don't think I could have or would have chosen differently.<BR/><BR/>Now that the marriage has ended, I believe I won't choose another unless he has some authority over me.EeeFahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04235943142241468299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-15074805070204192512008-04-28T00:01:00.000-07:002008-04-28T00:01:00.000-07:00Hello steph,Things are always so much easier, and ...Hello steph,<BR/><BR/>Things are always so much easier, and better when you have someone to guide and direct you, show you what they want. How is it that those early lessons did not translate forward and reduce or eliminate that anxiety later in life?Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04943867226010869367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-64386012489184718912008-04-27T09:32:00.000-07:002008-04-27T09:32:00.000-07:00My first lover was 4 years older than me, he taugh...My first lover was 4 years older than me, he taught me how to please him, would carefully instruct me how to kiss him the way he liked to be kissed, very calmly and lovingly...along with sexual acts, he told me exactly what to do to please him. I never suffered the anxiety in that relationship that I suffered in later relationships when trying to figure out "how to" get things right in the bedroom. <BR/><BR/>One day I just figured it out.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15509182115905864012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-37865171463503063112008-02-03T08:24:00.000-08:002008-02-03T08:24:00.000-08:00I managed to pretty much suppress my feelings enti...I managed to pretty much suppress my feelings entirely until just recently; it causes me much sadness as it seems, in some ways, a waste of many years. It is not as though I have been unhappy all these years mind you, and yet, when I think on it, somewhere deep inside I have always felt "unwhole", like a part of me had been severed.....and "that" is sad.CharliB.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07348297302596893151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-40947927954859466902008-02-01T14:10:00.000-08:002008-02-01T14:10:00.000-08:00Interesting that you both recognized your yearning...Interesting that you both recognized your yearnings early on, but did not permit yourself to openly explore them until much later.<BR/><BR/>Did the feeling or desire influence or affect your sexuality or interactions with partners over time? Or did you effectively suppress them entirely?Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04943867226010869367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-80286504980052126552008-01-27T13:14:00.000-08:002008-01-27T13:14:00.000-08:00What a completely erotic story! How divinely half...What a completely erotic story! <BR/><BR/>How divinely half asleep your friend must have been to allow herself that freedom, unquestioning, unthinking, in the moment.......lovely. I would like to achieve that; I am still working on it....maybe that's the answer, to be half asleep...(smile).<BR/><BR/>I have always, somewhere inside me, known of my submissiveness. There were fantasies of being raped, taken, used.....since I was a teenager. Those feelings are bad, ofcourse, and so I buried them away deeply until just recently. <BR/><BR/>On the internet I came across a posting. A woman was posing a question to a Dominant male on the site about D/s. I was fascinated by this and felt all tingly inside. I ended up posing a few of my own questions to this Dominant male and he became my first Dominant "friend". That was 11 months ago and so I have just started out on my journey and am quite enjoying my travels!CharliB.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07348297302596893151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-45657307672950220302008-01-26T01:31:00.000-08:002008-01-26T01:31:00.000-08:00Well i have known i was a bottom from early childh...Well i have known i was a bottom from early childhood and will reveal that story in a posting later this year. But being a wise woman with no desire to be a doormat i didn't actively engage in submissive activities until i had the security to do so.dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06220851788691260620noreply@blogger.com