Comments on A View from the Top: W I I F M

Wow, thank-you for this. I've wondered what makes ...

2009-08-10T13:23:26.140-07:00

Wow, thank-you for this. I've wondered what makes the opposite side do what they do. You gave me some insight.

It has bought tears to my eyes. This recognition o...

2009-06-25T03:22:57.222-07:00

It has bought tears to my eyes. This recognition of the special nature of what is given and what is gained. Truly a loving, trusting relationship between dominant and submissive is superlative.

Thank you all for your kind comments. The general...

2009-06-21T02:58:09.708-07:00

Thank you all for your kind comments. The general question seems to be do I think or know if most Dominants are like this? I think there is a lot of so called dominants who are simply tops, and are in it for the power and control, and I think there are a lot of dominants who fancy themselves tough guys and shouldn't be showing all that emotional stuff, and there are some that are honest and forthright about their feelings.

Again, like all relationships, you get all kinds of people in it for all manner of motives, and all kinds of behavior. I like to think that the depth, and honesty, and communication in a D/s relationship makes it better, but I think it is impossible to generalize.

Echoing everyone's sentiments here, my friend. It'...

2009-06-20T12:59:30.621-07:00

Echoing everyone's sentiments here, my friend. It's been a long time since I've commented, but this really moved me to peek my head in and thank you, once again, for your insight and observations.

Recently, my best girl friend asked me what it is about the Dominant/submissive relationship that makes it so worthwhile. I was easily able to convey my feelings from a submissive girl's point of view; however, it was not as easy for me to be able to effectively explain the joy of the dynamic from a dominant's perspective. I will direct her to this immediately.

You are appreciated and never forgotten.

xoxox

kit

Wonderful insight into what you are thinking and f...

2009-06-17T07:26:19.274-07:00

Wonderful insight into what you are thinking and feeling.

But the cynic in me wonders how common this is. Are most like you in this way? Or are as many just in it to for the power and control?

A yin and yang.

2009-06-15T16:28:14.735-07:00

A yin and yang.

I always ask play partners, whether casual and non...

2009-06-15T04:55:33.861-07:00

I always ask play partners, whether casual and nonsexual or long-term and intimate, "What is it like for you?" I'm fascinated by the variety of responses... everything from "Because it makes my dick hard" to "I feed off the fear in your eyes." Thank you to providing yet another response for my mental file.

It's been a while between entries but I'm glad I r...

2009-06-14T05:43:48.723-07:00

It's been a while between entries but I'm glad I read this most recent post. Thank you.

Very insightful, you old softie. x

2009-06-13T20:16:44.600-07:00

Very insightful, you old softie. x

David, thank you for writing this. It is something...

2009-06-12T21:37:38.977-07:00

David, thank you for writing this. It is something I have often wondered about actually, and as Alice mentioned, it seems sort of baffling, what the other side is feeling.. wondering what they could possibly get out of the experience. And, as always, beautifully written.

Thank you my Sir.

2009-06-12T06:31:17.833-07:00

Thank you my Sir.

Beautifully written and expressed. The giving and...

2009-06-11T23:04:22.529-07:00

Beautifully written and expressed. The giving and taking of it all is the essence I find so difficult to put into words.

thank you,
renea

David, How perfectly you have described this from ...

2009-06-11T19:01:03.989-07:00

David,
How perfectly you have described this from both sides. I have always felt that I receive much more from him by the way of acceptance and security to explore my submission, than I can ever return to him.

David It warms my soul to read of such warmth in ...

2009-06-11T18:57:59.208-07:00

David

It warms my soul to read of such warmth in your soul; the enrichment of your life through the connection with your submissive.

I think that is the goal; what we should all, dominant and submissive, be striving for.

Selkie I know I do so that is two of us and I am c...

2009-06-11T13:34:47.729-07:00

Selkie I know I do so that is two of us and I am certain there are more.

Nicely put David I think far too many people see what we do as a one way street or a straight line rather than the circle or reciprocal relationship it actually is.

tell me david, do you think most dominants worry a...

2009-06-11T09:13:52.261-07:00

tell me david, do you think most dominants worry about the repercussions of those emotins? Frankly, it seems to be so many D/s or M/s relationships start off with the best of intentions but quickly fall to the wayside in the harsh glare of reality (god, do I sound cynical?)

but yes, the profoundity of a good connection is "to the soul" affecting and as such, I think needs a gentle hand and a rapt understanding.

I also believe as you wisely point out here that the depth is repicrocal .. and affects not just the submissive but can have a profound effect on the dominant as well.

beaituflly expressed.

beautiful post, david. i'm really glad you wrote ...

2009-06-11T05:23:42.090-07:00

beautiful post, david. i'm really glad you wrote this.