tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post2649633442388181417..comments2023-04-12T04:11:40.082-07:00Comments on A View from the Top: What's Love Got To Do With It?Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04943867226010869367noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-84002181999302374012009-03-22T12:47:00.000-07:002009-03-22T12:47:00.000-07:00I can only comment based on one significant relati...I can only comment based on one significant relationship, which I'm still in recovery from... The *love* was not quite romantic love, though it did have a lot of the same elements... But even though I never fantasized about growing old with this person, my heart was filled by him completely and is torn to shreds now that we're apart. I can't imagine getting there with a vanilla boyfriend, because I wouldn't be with him were I not "in love". <BR/><BR/>So I can love this man -- that intensely -- and as Selkie said, in a way tied inextricably to my submission to him -- but not consider it being in love... I guess that's different. But I also could not have loved or been in love with anyone else in parallel. It was a total commitment, the only way I could feel that strongly.Vestrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11724889983016903299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-70963405910998495632009-03-02T06:13:00.000-08:002009-03-02T06:13:00.000-08:00for me, love and submission are indvisible. The in...for me, love and submission are indvisible. The intensity of the connection precludes anything else. But I do realize that is not true for everyone. It is not right nor wrong. Just the uniqueness of one individual.<BR/><BR/>I also would not say, however, that an intense vanilla relationship is "less than" or "less intense" - just different - I thihk there is a tendency to see the intensity of a D/s as "more than" but that is not ncessarily true (to my mind) - <BR/><BR/>I also think becuase of the intensity (and truth to tell, particularly if there is s/m invovled) you can create an increased intensity - but ultimately, as in ANY relationship, time, commitment and experience will out - if the conneciton is real and once realities intrude and the first blush wears off, you will see whether the commitment is in truth there or simply the first rush of any new relationship ...<BR/><BR/>Also, I believe there is an often spurious but seemingly REAL intensity generated in online relationships - a belief that you're "seeing" into the other person when in actuality, you are only seeing one facet ... so I think that there is the possiblity of seeing something as intense and real when again, only TIME will gauge its steel.selkiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01713419374194169822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-54609067771140755152009-02-24T15:57:00.000-08:002009-02-24T15:57:00.000-08:00One of the things I've learned as a submissive wom...One of the things I've learned as a submissive woman, (or I should say, consolidated) is that there *are* different kinds of love. I think for a long time I knew that, but feared it, being in a vanilla marriage. That knowledge went against what I thought was possible in my life. <BR/><BR/>But, I've since discovered that you can love your husband in a deep and abiding way, but still love a mentor, say, in a way that doesn't harm, or affect the love for your husband.<BR/><BR/>When all three (or more) of you understand that, and there is no threat, it allows a woman the opportunity to express all that is in her heart, and personally speaking, that's incredibly enriching and honest.<BR/><BR/>VestaVestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677044322646962128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931377820241721982.post-37805436865952044172009-02-24T11:33:00.000-08:002009-02-24T11:33:00.000-08:00Its interesting to have a male and dominant perspe...Its interesting to have a male and dominant perspective to these questions.<BR/><BR/>Though generalisations are always inherently difficult, you make a point here which I've often made in the past...that the level of communication in most D/s relationships often leads to that love becoming more deep rooted and quite possibly more able to withstand life's difficulties.<BR/><BR/>I tried...resisted....for a very long time loving Master because of past history, yet it appears even that, in the end, was within his control...smiles.<BR/><BR/>love and hugs xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com